I'm really excited about this wedding for many reasons, but I have to say, being done with the planning and prep is definitely going to be a perk.
However, I wanted to share something that, while somewhat sophomoric, was pretty accurate in its description of people like me - the outgoing introvert (or as I like to call it, the under cover introvert). So, if you care you read, enjoy!
1. When we see you after a long day, we might be all irritable and not want to talk
It has nothing to do with you. Outgoing introverts, though
still introverts at their core, often need to recharge after a large
use of social energy. After a long day of dealing with people, our
social batteries are drained and we need to unwind and recover, usually
alone.
2. We’re charming creatures and can be the life of the party, but...
You’ll be surprised how much we actually live in our
heads. People often confuse us for extroverts, but we're too
introspective and over-think too much to be one.
3. If we like you, we really like you.
We don’t waste our time with people we’re not completely
crazy about. If we agreed to go on a date with you, we like you. Take it
as a huge compliment.
4. We have times when we’re weird with our phones.
Some days we can talk for hours, but sometimes we’re not
so good at replying and talking on the phone. Don’t take it personally -
we screen our phone calls, even from our closest friends. Outgoing
introverts sometimes hate the phone because it’s all, like, intrusive
and tears our minds away from whatever we’re deeply focusing on (and we
are always deeply focusing on something). Our mind doesn't change
direction easily. Listening to one thing and seeing something else is a
lot of sensory input piled on top of everything that's already going on
in our heads.
5. But don’t worry, in person we’ll listen to you for hours.
We have spectrums of introversion, so we’re
good listeners. We’ll always be naturally in tune with how you’re
feeling, so we’ll be able to see through any front you put up and make
you jump into the deep end.
6. We need to dip our foot in the pool first.
We need time to warm up, so, like, chill. We tend not to
outwardly express our feelings and spill our whole life story in the
first hour of meeting you. Or the first year.
7. Our energy level depends on our environment.
Yes, we can get annoyed easily. If we vibe
with the crowd, we can get our energy from human interactions. But if
we don’t, we’ll start to get really introspective and reflective, and
tend to withdraw into ourselves. It’s kinda like a hit or miss. We’re
very selectively social. But it’s not because we dislike people - it's
actually the opposite. We dislike the barriers like small talk (which
often comes with going out) creates between people, and try to avoid it
at all costs.
8. We kinda hate the typical first date.
Maybe it’s 'cause we hate small talk or something.
Over-thinking is like a part of us so at times we enjoy a break from our
heads. Be willing to go somewhere authentic where we won’t have to
awkwardly sit across from each other asking the typical "get to know
you" questions.
9. You'll think we are flirty with everyone.
Okay here's the thing, when we inevitably have to interact
with people, we make it seem like there’s nothing in the world we'd
rather be doing. It's 'cause we're, like, overly sensitive and so we go
out of our way to make other people feel comfortable and happy.
We're intuitive and outgoing at the same time.
10. We can see through bullshit.
So don't try to deceive us. We’re kinda
like a human lie detector. We will always find out the truth
(muhahaha)... just kidding. But for real, we often have a keen eye for
detail, noticing things that may escape others around us.
Research has found that introverts pay more attention to detail and exhibit increased brain activity when processing visual information. A study shows that
the brain of an introvert weighs internal cues more strongly than
external motivational and reward cues. Since outgoing introverts are a
unique blend of both an extrovert and introvert, we rely on our own
internal instincts and logic to make decisions and form beliefs.
